“Nice weather today, huh?”
Similar comments that crop up during social interactions with unfamiliar people have always made me more uncomfortable than if it were filled with silence. I, myself, am more conditioned to periods of uncomfortable no talk rather than small talk.
Finding the most unremarkable thing to start a conversation about seems highly unnecessary and disrespectful. It’s true that as a skilled small talker you will come across as a more open and friendly person, compared to someone who doesn’t say much during social situations. Small talk has always been a mechanism for opening channels of communication and a tool for establishing social/conversational norms. By starting friendly, non-important talk, one can typically wave away any distrust between people in different circles. Small talk says “I’m here, I’m nonthreatening, and we can go from there.” Read More